The Invisible Chapter in Every Transformation
We love to share the “before” and celebrate the “after.” But what about the middle?
That part where the path gets blurry. Where the routines unravel. Where doubt grows louder than hope.
Can you relate?
Why the middle often gets skipped in stories
We skip it not because it doesn't matter — but because it's hard. It's not photogenic. It's quiet and chaotic all at once. But it's the very soil where growth takes root.
The silence we carry during struggle
Most of us walk through the middle silently. We whisper our questions in the dark and keep smiling on the outside. But trust me, you're not the only one navigating this space.
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What the Messy Middle Actually Looks Like
It doesn't always look dramatic. Sometimes it’s slow mornings. Sometimes it’s unspoken questions. Sometimes it’s just that feeling — something’s not clicking.
Signs you're in the thick of it
- You feel like you're doing everything “right” and still not moving forward.
- You wake up with a heavy fog around your dreams.
- You wonder if it's time to pivot or persevere.
The emotional and energetic fog
It’s in those moments where you can’t tell if you're burnt out or just in transition. When clarity feels far, and yet your heart is still whispering, “Keep going.”
You Are Not Alone — Everyone Has a Messy Middle
There were times in my wellness and business journey when I felt like nothing I was doing was working — the more I tried to ‘get it right,’ the more lost I felt.
That was the moment I learned to slow down, to soften, and to step a moment outside and take a birds perspective. And it changed everything.
Real-life examples of growth in progress
Some of the most beautiful breakthroughs happen right after someone almost gave up. I’ve witnessed this in my own life — and in the lives of those I walk alongside. Twice a month, I gather with a beautiful circle of souls on the reset journey. Some are just beginning. Others return after feeling like they’ve “fallen off the wagon,” bravely choosing to begin again. These moments — honest, messy, and real — remind us that healing isn’t linear. It helps to be part of a space where you’re encouraged, embraced, and truly understood.
Famous “messy middles” that changed the world
Even the most successful people have walked through uncertain, hidden seasons. It’s not a detour — it’s part of the path.
- Think of J.K. Rowling, who was a single mother on welfare, rejected by 12 publishers before Harry Potter ever reached a shelf.
- Or Oprah Winfrey, who was fired from her first television job and told she was “unfit for TV.”
- Brené Brown: long before her TED Talk went viral (https://youtu.be/iCvmsMzlF7o?si=32MkIx74nAzsI4FQ), Brené faced criticism from academics and personal vulnerability hangovers. The very research that made her famous — shame, failure, and authenticity — was born from her own struggle with those exact emotions.
These weren't glamorous chapters. They were quiet, painful, and deeply human — their messy middles.
And yet, those in-between moments were exactly what shaped their message, their voice, their strength.
Their stories remind us: your current uncertainty might just be the soil for your future impact.
Their stories remind us: your current uncertainty might just be the soil for your future impact.
The Truth Behind Stuckness: It’s a Sign of Growth
Feeling stuck isn’t proof you’re broken. It’s proof you’re becoming.
Why feeling lost means you’re evolving
Every version of you that no longer fits has to fall away first. That’s not failure — it’s transformation.
Discomfort as a sign of inner alignment
You’re not drifting — you’re deepening. The discomfort is calling you back to wholeness.
Small Shifts That Help You Move Forward
Sometimes what you need isn’t a big leap, but a soft and gentle nudge.
The power of micro-decisions
Tiny choices hold power: drinking water before coffee, saying no to a draining invite, or taking a few moments to breathe. One small shift can change your whole momentum.
Anchoring yourself in gentle routines
Gentle doesn't mean passive. It means intentional. Routines like lighting a candle before journaling, or walking in the morning — they center you when the middle gets noisy.
Mindset Shifts to Embrace the Journey
What if the middle wasn’t something to get through — but something to honor?
Reframing “stuck” as sacred
Let the middle be sacred space. A cocoon. A breath. The stretch before the bloom.
Learning to trust the unseen path
You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just the next step. Let trust carry you the rest of the way.
How Nature Mirrors Our Own Cycles
Nature is my greatest mentor.
Seasons of pause, bloom, and transformation
When I feel like I’m spiraling, I do one thing: I turn off my phone and go into nature and just walk. I need my feet on the earth. It reminds me I’m still here. Still growing.
Trusting the roots even when nothing blooms
Even when nothing looks like it’s working — something is. Deep below the surface, your roots are strengthening. Just don't give up believing in the process and yourself.
What to Do When It Feels Like Nothing Is Working
The answer is not always to push harder. Sometimes, it’s to pause and listen. TAke out a book, start reading or as I love to do is guiding myself through an Aroma Technique the gives me insight and new perspectives of moving forward or thinking about myself.
The role of surrender in success
Surrender isn’t defeat. It’s a sacred invitation to soften and realign.
Finding stillness in the chaos
Stillness isn’t always external. Sometimes it’s found in a single breath, a grounding word, a return to center.
The Inner Voice That Whispers “Try Again”
There is always a moment — quiet, soft — when your spirit says, “Try again.”
How intuition guides you gently back
That voice isn’t dramatic. It won’t scream. But it will come back to you like a wave: calm, knowing, steady.
Listening for signs instead of solutions
Not every question needs a concrete answer right away. Look instead for signs — a passage you can’t stop thinking about, a gentle nudge in your heart.
Aroma Reset: A Tool to Clear the Fog
One powerful tool I use in those moments of overwhelm is something called Aroma Reset. It’s a short but incredibly effective technique that helps you quickly reset your emotions.
By tuning into your body’s reactions, holding the space for what you feel, and inhaling specific essential oils, you gently “reset” your nervous system. You move from chaos to clarity. From noise to focus. From anxiety to action.
It’s helped me move forward so many times — and I love sharing this with my commnity.
Words of Encouragement for the Journey
You are not behind. You are becoming.
You’re not behind, you’re becoming
Let those words settle deep in your soul. No one is ahead of you. You’re on your own sacred timeline.
The quiet magic of keeping on
Even if no one sees the work you're doing — you know. You’re showing up. You’re doing the work. And that matters more than you know.
A Love Note to the You-in-Process
This is for the you who keeps showing up even when it’s messy. Even when it’s slow. Even when the results haven’t caught up yet.
Honoring who you are today
You’re allowed to be a masterpiece and a work in progress at the same time. Today’s version of you is worthy — just as she is.
Embracing your unfolding story
Let yourself be in the middle. Let it be unfinished. It is still holy ground.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: What if I don’t know where I’m going?
A: That’s more than okay. Sometimes, clarity is the result of moving — not the prerequisite.
Q: How do I stay motivated in the middle?
A: Don’t wait for motivation. Let intention and small rituals carry you when motivation wanes.
Q: What tools can help me get through the fog?
A: Try my grounding walk practice, the aroma reset technique, or a short journaling prompt to check in with yourself.
Q: Is it normal to feel like giving up?
A: Yes — it means you care. But pause. Breathe. And remember, the next right step is often smaller and simpler than you think.
Q: Can growth really come from confusion?
A: Absolutely. Confusion is the soil of transformation. What feels unclear today is preparing you for something beautiful tomorrow.
Q: How do I know if I’m making progress?
A: If you’re showing up, tuning in, and still listening to your inner nudge — you’re progressing in the most meaningful way.
Final Thoughts: You’re In the Becoming
The messy middle isn’t a mistake. It’s where you meet your strength. Your softness. Your soul.
And just in case no one’s told you lately:
You’re doing beautifully.
You’re not behind.
You’re in the becoming.
You’re doing beautifully.
You’re not behind.
You’re in the becoming.
With softness and belief in your becoming,
Cornelia 🌿
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